Malaysian Christian Writes

" Dating leads to intimacy but not necessarily to commitment " Joshua Harris made that statement in his book 'I kissed dating goodbye '. I do not totally agree with his book and it is based on his convictions, but still he does prove a good point. Lets keep it short and simple  =)  I guarantee that most of you would not agree with what I have to share here but don't you think it makes sense? Intimacy would awaken desires that humans can't control and if we do have that commitment, it would be like promising something we can't or will not keep. Lets rephrase the title to ' Intimacy is the reward of commitment '. I believe we have no right of asking a person to satisfy your emotional and physical needs if you are not willing to make a commitment. It takes a lot to give yourself to someone (not just sex), and if you are not looking for a committed relationship would only have the person scared after breaking up with them. One may claim the

Humans are humans after all. I can't remember the numerous times I have stated that we no matter how objective we may want to stand, at various times allow our emotions to control us. At times yes it may be needed, but most of the time, it is acting foolishly in the end. True love nullifies dating. If you think, dating being guided by the world's attitude actually portray's the love for one's self and making decisions on what is best for me (we can go deeper on what is true love into this if you readers want it) . Yes probably we need to go deeper on true love but the question I would like to pose here is this. What is my real reason for dating?  What am I seeking in dating that friendship cannot provide?  Am I selfishly seeking my own fulfilment, to fill that empty hole in my heart, to feel like I belong, to feel complete?  What do I talk about with my partner?  Am I arousing emotions I'm not ready to meet? and for Christians, will having a relationship