When you believe you have found someone.
So I had time to think in the LRT. The question that comes to mind is what is it then when you believe you have found the one? Now when I say that I do not believe in the one as in there is only one person out there in the universe meant for you. But 'the one' as in he or she fits what a man or woman should be as how God designed us to be. A helper fit for the man. In all the brokeness and sin, in all the muck and mire there is that love for God. Not religousness but the mutual love for God. This is indeed speaking to Christians. What if she is the one but yet feel like it isn't time yet? Or it may not be mutual?
My personal response would be to continue to fight for her, and pursue her. I say her so it is easier instead of he and her and he and her and he and her blegh. What do I mean by that? I do not mean being annoyingly persistent when she clearly does not like you. If that is the case, put on your brakes and serve her as a sister in Christ (for Christians). But if it were me. If I believe I have found the one. Through my limited knowledge and in all honesty and humility by God's grace I would say this. I am willing to learn and ready to stand corrected. As a friend I will continue to pursue her heart for I find that I have honestly found a helper fit for me. Matt Chandler once said in terms of marriage, one pursues the other in friendship in hopes that it would lead to something more for he who finds a wife finds what is good. Helper as in aggressively there for you, in mutual submission, spurring one another to know Christ better. In that mutual flawness in knowing the Father in heaven and doing it together. She helps me be the better man I am by grace in Christ while I would then love her as Christ loved the church for he gave himself up for her. Sacrificial love on both ends. She is more bothered of seeing the partner in all his weaknesses understanding that we are all sinners and patiently journey with him in forgiveness, mercy and grace compared to the qualities she looks for in a man. Not to say it is not important but already understanding the kind of partner she needs that it needs no list to check off while knowing that the best of guys would come with their baggage and brokeness vice versa. So what ever it is, I would wait for her because she is worth the wait.
So some may say being too focused on one girl may have made me missed other opportunities. So what? When it comes to relationships, the one thing is intentions. What is the purpose of getting in one? Are you in a rush to be in one? For me to be in a relationship is to be in two messes in each other's lives where it allows forgiveness and mercy to reign within it by His grace where the relationship would lavish. If I have found that certain someone and I will pursue her heart. Simple, if I trust I have found the one it will be worth it no matter what the outcome even in the hurt if it does not work out. Look, God's will be done. When you've found someone or something that good you do not just let it go. To know you've done all you can in pursuing her heart through sufficient grace. Indeed there will be hurt if it doesn't work out but remember that God is your ultimate joy and treasure. He will be able to redeem this in you. At the end you would have learnt much.
What if in the event she does not want to get into a relationship? If you really like her then wait. Love is patient after all right? To desire that intimacy and long for it, demanding it would be selfish. But the last thing you want to do is to push her further. As a brother or sister in Christ be there for them, honor each other, spur each other to know Christ better. Providing that save platform to be honest and transparent. Pray for her. Remember it is not your responsibility in their walk with God. You can be instrumental but it is all the work of the Holy Spirit.
If I let someone like that just go, I would regret not fighting for her heart. Again I do say, yes God's ways are higher than mine. He always have the bigger plans covered. The question is whether I can trust him. Bible commands us to rejoice. The Lord is at hand. To not be anxious about anything but by prayer and petition with thanksgiving you present your request to the Lord. His peace that transcends all understanding will come upon you. The peace that proclaims who God is. Where in his presence there is fullness of joy and pleasures in his right hand forevermore.
Yes I admit, a lot of factors to account for. But journey with me here and just take this bit over here on fighting and waiting for the girl or guy =)
My personal response would be to continue to fight for her, and pursue her. I say her so it is easier instead of he and her and he and her and he and her blegh. What do I mean by that? I do not mean being annoyingly persistent when she clearly does not like you. If that is the case, put on your brakes and serve her as a sister in Christ (for Christians). But if it were me. If I believe I have found the one. Through my limited knowledge and in all honesty and humility by God's grace I would say this. I am willing to learn and ready to stand corrected. As a friend I will continue to pursue her heart for I find that I have honestly found a helper fit for me. Matt Chandler once said in terms of marriage, one pursues the other in friendship in hopes that it would lead to something more for he who finds a wife finds what is good. Helper as in aggressively there for you, in mutual submission, spurring one another to know Christ better. In that mutual flawness in knowing the Father in heaven and doing it together. She helps me be the better man I am by grace in Christ while I would then love her as Christ loved the church for he gave himself up for her. Sacrificial love on both ends. She is more bothered of seeing the partner in all his weaknesses understanding that we are all sinners and patiently journey with him in forgiveness, mercy and grace compared to the qualities she looks for in a man. Not to say it is not important but already understanding the kind of partner she needs that it needs no list to check off while knowing that the best of guys would come with their baggage and brokeness vice versa. So what ever it is, I would wait for her because she is worth the wait.
So some may say being too focused on one girl may have made me missed other opportunities. So what? When it comes to relationships, the one thing is intentions. What is the purpose of getting in one? Are you in a rush to be in one? For me to be in a relationship is to be in two messes in each other's lives where it allows forgiveness and mercy to reign within it by His grace where the relationship would lavish. If I have found that certain someone and I will pursue her heart. Simple, if I trust I have found the one it will be worth it no matter what the outcome even in the hurt if it does not work out. Look, God's will be done. When you've found someone or something that good you do not just let it go. To know you've done all you can in pursuing her heart through sufficient grace. Indeed there will be hurt if it doesn't work out but remember that God is your ultimate joy and treasure. He will be able to redeem this in you. At the end you would have learnt much.
What if in the event she does not want to get into a relationship? If you really like her then wait. Love is patient after all right? To desire that intimacy and long for it, demanding it would be selfish. But the last thing you want to do is to push her further. As a brother or sister in Christ be there for them, honor each other, spur each other to know Christ better. Providing that save platform to be honest and transparent. Pray for her. Remember it is not your responsibility in their walk with God. You can be instrumental but it is all the work of the Holy Spirit.
If I let someone like that just go, I would regret not fighting for her heart. Again I do say, yes God's ways are higher than mine. He always have the bigger plans covered. The question is whether I can trust him. Bible commands us to rejoice. The Lord is at hand. To not be anxious about anything but by prayer and petition with thanksgiving you present your request to the Lord. His peace that transcends all understanding will come upon you. The peace that proclaims who God is. Where in his presence there is fullness of joy and pleasures in his right hand forevermore.
Yes I admit, a lot of factors to account for. But journey with me here and just take this bit over here on fighting and waiting for the girl or guy =)
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