Transparency, my personal way of living

I believe in essence I have somewhat blogged about this. Being transparent is coming as you are. The real you. Last year I wrote a post on acting being a daily routine on how we act in life not being our true selves. Now I will try to share with you why I believe it is essential to be transparent. To be that open book =)

Not until you are fully known, you will not be fully loved. Think about it, you can only be loved to the point where you are known. Logic? Well that is why I try to be as honest as I can be about myself. That being said, I too draw a line in disclosing my information. But when you stop pretending, you'll notice that you are more alive, or you come alive =). You do not hide. That sense of freedom I understand there is always the fear of not being accepted, but then, you put on a persona and be someone you are not just to be part of something you think you want to be to please the people you think you want to please. From my experience, true friends will love you for who they are and will not judge you harshly for being honest. But do forgive them as well if they make those mistakes =). After all we are imperfect people.

We are all recovering sinners and no one can be in a relationship that is secure if you are loved because you are smart, pretty, good looking, successful and all the other good attributes. But when one is their true self, which includes your vulnerable weak side, I believe instead of being cast away from friends, it ties a stronger bond. To me its like saying " Wow, you finally opened up, you trust me enough to tell me this, my love for you has grown =)". C'mon lets face it, there is always something to a person, an issue that he or she is constantly struggling. Everyone has it. To not have problems is to live in denial.
I mean look at the Bible, all God's chosen people, they weren't perfect, they were indeed so incompetent and weak if you were to read the Bible slowly. David for example is known to be the greatest King of Israel, but a bad father, a murderer, adulterer, fugitive, and coveter. Yet, still called a man after God's own heart. 
God does not want you to act,  He wants you to be how he has designed you to be. What you think is a flaw in you can be a chance for Him to show His glory

Being who you are, your true self, means you have nothing to hide. People take you as you are. They know you. I am grateful for friends who know me and take me as I am in my brokenness. In superficial relationships, you do not think about it, but in real friendships, their acceptance touches me to the core.
To me, the act of acceptance that heals me is still a mystery to me to an extend.

Here is a post on how we make love a verb
http://eddproteo.blogspot.com/2012/12/believe-best-or-assume-worst.html

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