True love nullifies dating

Humans are humans after all. I can't remember the numerous times I have stated that we no matter how objective we may want to stand, at various times allow our emotions to control us. At times yes it may be needed, but most of the time, it is acting foolishly in the end.
True love nullifies dating.
If you think, dating being guided by the world's attitude actually portray's the love for one's self and making decisions on what is best for me (we can go deeper on what is true love into this if you readers want it).
Yes probably we need to go deeper on true love but the question I would like to pose here is this.

What is my real reason for dating? 
What am I seeking in dating that friendship cannot provide? 
Am I selfishly seeking my own fulfilment, to fill that empty hole in my heart, to feel like I belong, to feel complete? 
What do I talk about with my partner? 
Am I arousing emotions I'm not ready to meet? and for Christians, will having a relationship hinder my walk with God?
The love we all naturally have is self-love. Feelings control them. I asked a person before why do you like her so much and he replied "Cause the feelings inside of me is strong, I'm falling hard for her and I can't control it". If you'd ask me, you can control it =). It is not wrong. Feeling love is not wrong. But what happens when those feelings end? Will the relationship end as well?
We shouldn't allow our feelings to be our premises for the relationship. Instead, wisdom, patience, and selflessness should govern us.

For me, I would let myself be single now ( another set of things I can talk about =.=). Being in a relationship takes lots of time and effort and that hinders me from all the opportunities I can do as a single guy. For me, it is to keep my focus on God. The right one will come ;)
Man one can go on and on about this. I probably would =) for the next few posts.
This post was after reviewing a book called 'I kissed dating goodbye'. Hopefully we get more of this book for the weeks to come. 

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