Dating will have intimacy, may have no Commitment

" Dating leads to intimacy but not necessarily to commitment "
Joshua Harris made that statement in his book 'I kissed dating goodbye'. I do not totally agree with his book and it is based on his convictions, but still he does prove a good point.

Lets keep it short and simple  =)
 I guarantee that most of you would not agree with what I have to share here but don't you think it makes sense? Intimacy would awaken desires that humans can't control and if we do have that commitment, it would be like promising something we can't or will not keep.
Lets rephrase the title to ' Intimacy is the reward of commitment '. I believe we have no right of asking a person to satisfy your emotional and physical needs if you are not willing to make a commitment. It takes a lot to give yourself to someone (not just sex), and if you are not looking for a committed relationship would only have the person scared after breaking up with them. One may claim they can control themselves, but being intimate also encourages and arouses sexual desires. People should be running away from temptation but instead they just find where the line is and make sure they do not cross it.

Understand the significance of physical intimacy. In context of sex, one may say " It is just sex ". Some see it as just an experience. A woman said that kissing is something very precious. A way of giving their heart and trust to the man they love which leaves them indeed vulnerable. It is more than two bodies coming together.

What kind of commitment am I talking about? When one gets into a relationship, it would be in hopes that one day you will get married your partner. It would be the same for me. What other reason would you want to get into one? To try out? To feel good? Because she or he makes you feel complete till the next person comes along?
Define the relationship's purpose. Is this for fun or serious? What is my commitment? Wow, don't you think having the intent of marriage for a relationship seems so....serious? Well It is, it is a person's heart and future we are talking about here.
That is why when I get into a relationship, the girl would have the same purpose in mind as me and we would have been good friends to begin with. Who would think of that at at age like now(teenagers)? The idea would probably freak them out.

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