What is real FELLOWSHIP

    As I have learned, life is meant to be shared. " Fellowship" now usually refers to casual conversation, socializing, chit-chatting , and having fun in any place be it the church or cafes. Real fellowship is much more than showing your face. According to this book I have been reading, it includes unselfish loving, honest sharing, practical serving, sacrificial giving and sympathetic comforting. In real fellowship, people experience authenticity. it is not superficial or just one simple surface-level chit-chat. It is genuine, heart to heart, at times gut-level sharing. In my experience I am proud to say I have had many. This happens when people be honest with themselves and what is happening in their lives. They share their hurts, confess failures, reveal their feelings. Practically show their true self.

   These days, there is pretending, role-playing, politicking, plus superficial politeness but shallow conversations. People wear mask, keep their guard up, and act as if everything is fine. These attitudes are the death of fellowship.

   Being authentic requires courage and humility. Facing our fear of rejection, exposure and being hurt. These are the risk but because it is the only way to grow spiritually and emotionally healthy, we should to it. We grow by taking risk, and the most difficult is to be honest with ourselves and others.

To experience real fellowship we need to be open with our lives.

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