Friend or like?

              By the way what I am going to say has nothing to do with me. How to distinguish between friend or like. I think this is one of the biggest blunder in relationships. The factors that destroys friendships. What do you think?
            Some of you may say it takes skill to distinguish between acting as a friend and liking the friend. I say it is totally wrong. If it was a skill then many friendships would be destroyed now.  But I would say this though. The ability....argh it ain't an ability, but to know this it takes keen observation and knowing the other person. Why some people can't distinguish? Well I can't give u a 100% answer, just in theories. I think when one confesses and gets rejected, he would think he is being played right? Because the other person was being a " good friend " to him and he took the " good friend "thing differently. He....or she can't see it because they were able to convince themselves the other party likes them in a ' like like' way. They think if one person putting his/her hand on your arm or shoulder is a 'like like' thing. No. Not necessarily.

Ok this he/she thing is kinda irritating...Lets just stick to he.

           They are so cooped up with the thought of being played that they missed the important facts around them. They in the end tend to hold grudges.There goes the friendship. Sometimes he takes the rejection too seriously that he inevitably lies to himself. It is sad isn't it? Lying to self? Yes saying things like " Oh i was played" or " She is one bad girl right there for doing this to me". 

          You ask yourself...What would Jesus do? Lol sorry just kidding. What I really was going to say was this... Do you know the difference between a friend or more than a friend? Well I bet the internet can tell you all the tell-tale signs bout this matter but I am never sure they are right. Probably just wants lots of publicity don't you think? Some of the tips they give are bogus. Remind yourself not to make these mistakes and be aware. The hand thing was just one example. Why not try watching movies about a show between two best friends one a girl another a boy. hmmmmm like a movie " eight and below"? About the dogs? right? ( but in the end they both fell in love but never mind that part)


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