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Be silent, and listen

What does it mean to wait, be silent , and listen?   Before I begin, I also be silent and think, whether this would bore you readers .....and then I continue XP  The words silent and listen are usually used in a parallel manner if you noticed. Doing these three things needs patience. There is always a time to be silent and a time to speak . One cannot listen if they are not silent. Sometimes, wisdom does not come from telling people what you know, showing them you are right, proving them wrong, later on to feel all high and mighty. Sometimes wisdom also means to be silent, hear them out, listen to all their wrongs and rights and taking it in. The right time will come to say the right words. Ever heard of.. ." It was the right thing to say, but wrong time to do it"? Yeah it is as you have read it. One can cause unfavourable damage if they keep speaking but on the other hand, one can lose opportunities when they become silent at times when they are needed to be heard. ...

FEAR

I am not sure whether I blogged on fear before. But if I did, well then take it as a second post on fear then. I am not expert on fear but this is what I know. Fear limits you . One thing is for sure, fear can come in many forms and not just the " Oh I am scared " kind of fear. Anxiety, doubts, timidity, worry, suspicion, depression, loneliness, superstition and the list goes on.              Somewhat fear is related to my previous post on being an oyster (link of the post)  which I think is about worrying and having doubts on what is outside your comfort zone that you stay in your shell not knowing what is out there. Thus, being fearful. For example, No one is afraid to say I love you, they are just afraid of the response. Now he or she worries of the response and fear of rejection. Worry is a fear. Or No one is afraid to speak up in class, they are just afraid of what people might think of them. But you also see how it limits you. T...

Still Not Over You

HA! When you clicked it you thought I was going talk about some girl I am not over with. EEEEK wrong! It is my new song I wrote. I don't know why when I write songs the theme is always something like this song. Enjoy. ^_~V Still Not Over You(ORIGINAL)

Are you an Oyster?

Ok before I begin, I think we all know what an oyster is. Is that little gooey thingy that lives in a hard shell? Well if you are still confused.... G o o g l e it. This is a summary of a statement by Dr.Maxwell Maltz. As I have said in my previous posts that to love is one risky thing. You make yourself vulnerable, and chances are high to get hurt and your heart aches and bleed. But in the end, I always believe we end up stronger and continue loving. Orrrrrrrr We could just protect ourselves in a strong protective shell from the world where no one can hurt us and we will never be sad....Like an oyster. Maltz said to live creatively, one must be wiling to be a little vulnerable thus  be willing to hurt a little.  To love, to be open, to disclose your live's information would also mean at some point, you are gonna get hurt. You could shell up like an oyster and never experience those moments or " turn the other cheek ", remain vulnerable and continue living cr...

Ruth Meets Ashton

Three words, Grace Of God . Our band has gone so far in just within a year. Considering how it is only a year, it has just been an awesome ride with my band mates.  Along with Joshua Lew and Mas Mahathir we have rocked our own world. We have had performances for events, charities, toastmasters, parties, online competitions.... Ruth Meets Ashton. A name that will be carved in my life forever. So, I just dropped by to share with you our latest achievment. We join an inter-college talent competition called "Lost and Found " on the 24th of March. We made it through the finals and everyone was good and...duh talented. It was the greatest night of my life so far. We did not win but let me tell you what we achieved. The attention of the audience and judges. One of the judges from a band called the Revellers were amazed with our mash up with our original song " On My Knees " and 'Hide' from Yellowcard and asked for our contact number. He wanted to try to ...

There is no such thing as 'The One'

The last time I blogged about The One it was about me not knowing the answer and complaining everyone who found their 'ONE' saying you'll just know when the time comes. Seriously that answer just did not suffice. After making lots of research (which means there will be citations inside here), this is what I have come to conclude. You never marry 'The One'. I begin with what Keller (2012) said "  Today we are looking for someone who accepts us as we are  and  fulfills our desires, and this creates an unrealistic set of expectations that frustrates both the searchers and the searched for." .   Today as I have always said, marriage has somewhat lost its significance in the eyes of the word. The reasons people get married was because they claim they were ' So in Love ' then once they get into on, and the years pass by , they find that initial love they use to have is not able to sustain them.  We are missing the point of marriage here! We always wa...

Just Help me

My survival mode is on. I am hanging in there. =) Its stupid to get involved in petty issues like this. Though petty, it is important to me. What I tell myself? When are you gonna release me God when you have drawn me back like an arrow? How far you are gonna draw me back till I can go the furthest to hit the target?? I understand if you want me to go far, you have to pull me back at a proper distance at first.  God's grace is sufficient for me. I shall be dependent on God's provision. I shall trust the Lord and throw my brain away and have a childlike faith. A faith that would want to move mountains. I shall not lean on to my own understanding.  I know the end results is worth it. It is just unfortunate for me. Of all people I was chosen for this. Lord give me  a sign . Something that assures me to know I am on the right track. Whatever it is take me away from this feeling. My first lament in a long time. Did not know where else to pour it out.